SONG TITLE:"You Don't Treat Me No Good"
ARTIST: Sonia Dada
ALBUM: Sonia Dada
YEAR OF RELEASE: 1992
WORDS: soniadada.com
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I have a special, lifelong love for the kiss-off song. It doesn't matter if I'm happy or sad, coupled or alone, there's nothing that makes my heart swell like one party telling another to get bent. It's not enough just to quietly leave, it has to involve standing up and saying "fuck this, I can do better". Getting a little something off your chest. It's all about the fear, and overcoming it, and using that moment to say the things you've held back.
For obvious reasons, the most frequent targets for this message are lovers and bosses, but not always. These moments are equally great when they appear outside of music too - there's the Buffy finale when all the potentials were activated, and the elevator scene in Living Out Loud where Holly Hunter goes apeshit on her ex and screams out "god, what was I so afraid of that YOU were a better choice!?"
For the past 13 years, "You Don't Treat Me No Good" has been my shining example of the most perfect kiss-off song of all time. It's plaintive and empowered and peppy and I love it so. I can sing along at the top of my lungs and feel good doing it. There are other great songs on the same album, filled with self-torture and angst and bearing hilariously consistent titles like "We Treat Each Other Cruel", "You Ain't Thinking (About Me)", "Never See Me Again", "Deliver Me", and "I Live Alone". Sona Dada are an unusual band. For one thing, they're huge - seven regulars, plus sit-ins and specials. For another, they're incredibly stable, surviving about 15 years with almost no changes in line-up. I hear they're quite good live, but I've never had the pleasure.
As I was listening to this song this week on the way to work, I was conscious of how desperately I need to kiss-off my job. I started running down the kiss-off songs I keep in my head, and juxtaposing the job songs with the lover ones, and vice versa, and realizing they were all coming from similar emotional places. And while thinking of this song in relation to the nutty co-dependent goodness that is my professional life, things morphed until I was starting to envisioning it as a Mulder-centric X-Files vid. I shit you not. I was never a big Mulderfan, but somehow the thought of him finally saying "I'm gonna quit. I can't stand it. I'm gonna give it up and quit and ain't never coming back." filled me with the happy. Because if Mulder could do it, maybe I could too.